The person God has for you is worth the wait.
I know patiently waiting in obedience on the Lord for your husband or wife can be frustrating sometimes. Let’s be real. You see everyone in love, getting engaged, being proposed to, etc. Sometimes you probably even think maybe you can just pick someone yourself and God will bless it. (No, friend.) I know that that is quite tempting on those lonely nights and during the holidays, but I pray this piece of my testimony encourages someone to wait on the Lord. And not just wait, but with joy and gratitude.
Wait on the LORD: be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart: wait, I say, on the LORD.
God has us wait for many reasons and some of those are to protect us from heartbreak, to keep us from sin, to prepare us for marriage, and to build our faith in Him.
I married young at the age of 19. I had met my husband who was 24 at the time while he was in the military and I was a sophomore in college. He was stationed a state over from me and we had hit it off. I won’t go into all the details of our marriage out of respect for him being my son’s father, but I will say God had showed me the signs before we even said our vows that he was not meant to be my husband. But I loved him and I wanted us to work. I was young and naive and I had become impatient with waiting on the Lord – and I paid for it deeply. Neither him nor I were ready for marriage. We barely knew each other. We were unequally yoked. The foundation that started our relationship to begin with was all wrong. It had been lust-filled and carnal. All I will say is that I went through a lot. I suffered much pain and heartache because of my impatience. Things that I have forgiven and moved on from now. I had just thought someone finally loved me for me and I was wrong. I’ve been divorced for awhile now and have been raising our son on my own.
Rest in the LORD and wait patiently for Him: Do not fret because of him who prospers in his way, Because of the man who carries out wicked schemes.
All this goes to say is that God wants only the best for His children. And FYI – singleness is not a curse, friend. It’s an awesome time to grow in God and learn things about yourself. If you are not a happy single, marriage won’t change it either. What you’ll end up doing is placing your happiness in a person instead of finding joy in Jesus. You are a beautiful (or handsome) treasure. God didn’t set you aside, He set you apart. He hid you so that all the wrong people would overlook you. I promise when the right one comes along they will SEE you and they will love ALL of you. Sisters, he will lead you closer to Christ. He will protect, provide, and honor. He will not just know bible verses but live them. He won’t just go to church on Sundays just because it’s expected but he will be the church everyday. He will not try to change who you are to please him but he will remind you who you are in Christ when you forget. Brothers, she will be your peace and not your pain. A help mate and not a hellmate. She will speak with wisdom, truth, and kindness. She will be of a deeper beauty that is beyond the outer appearance. She will nurture you and your children. She will be a peacemaker. The Bible says it is better to be wandering in the desert than have a quarrelsome wife at home. (LOL)
In the right relationship you will be a team. A Proverbs 31 woman with a Ephesians 5 man making 1 Corinthians 13 love together. You will become one in marriage and love each other without conditions no matter what. You will fall deeper in love with them everyday. The love of Christ will be so evident in the way you both serve each other. I could go on and on because now I finally know what it means to truly be in love with someone because Christ has showed me how to love in the way He loves me. God only wants to give you what you deserve, friend. Be patient. I would never want anyone of you to go through what I did.
I wait for the LORD, my soul does wait, And in His word do I hope.
Sex does not equal love. If someone can’t be committed to you nor want to be with you without the promise of sex then they are not the one. They are after your body and are being led by their flesh despite if they call themselves a Christian or not. Do not be fooled. Flee from temptation. There are too many STDs out here in these streets. Both Sexually Transmitted Diseases and Spiritually Transmitted Demons. Protect yourself. There is nothing gross or taboo about sex like some religious people make it. It is natural and for the marriage bed. So save all your sexy for your future spouse! Have that fun then.
Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to you earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry.
I will be be vulnerable here. Although there are biblical grounds for divorce, I still feel at times that God may not give me that second chance. And I’m not sad about it. I enjoy being single and getting closer to Him. Sometimes however, I wonder how would it be to truly be in love and have someone in love with me. I’ve never experienced that. I am overjoyed for all my friends who are finding love and I don’t envy anyone’s relationship. I pray that my testimony saves many of you from going down a similar path and rushing. When God gives you signs… take heed. Remember, it’s better to wait long than marry wrong.
I love y’all! I am always here to talk without my judgement and pray with you. Stay prayerful, friend! ♡
Peace and blessings,
Alicia – The Prodigal Daughter